Last week, I read a blog post called How to Date a Fat Girl. Half way through reading it, I stopped and gasped into a silent room. My whole body had a reaction to what I was reading. I’ve taken some time to assess the pieces and my reaction and it really boils down to a few things.
I have always seen myself as an attractive person.
At 50 pounds lighter, 30 pounds heavier or my weight right now, I’ve always thought of myself as an attractive person. Call me vain. Call me petty. Call me whatever you want.
I’m a smart, sassy, confident girl. Yes, my pants may be bigger than yours, but that does not make me doubt my ability to light up a room.
I was married in a size 14 dress, does that make my husband a Chubby Chaser? I like big tattooed men with facial hair. Does this make me a Beard Chaser a Muscle Chaser?
Is there a derogatory term for men (or women) who like underweight women? Stick Chaser perhaps. Oh right, these labels only exists for overweight women because God forbid anyone finds us attractive. God forbid we see ourselves as attractive.
Yes, we can blame these stereotypes on society’s view of women and misogyny. We can blame it on a lot of external factors. But, what about our internal factors?
Who told you that you are unattractive? Who told you there is no way a man (or woman) would ever be attracted to you? Who told you to question peoples motives and think the worst? Chances are, these are things you say to yourself. Are you still talking to yourself like this? Well, it’s time to stop.
It sounds cliche, but the most important thing you wear everyday is confidence.
Guys, you want to learn how to date a fat girl, or any girl for that matter? Treat her like the amazing person she is. Period.
Girls, you want to feel attractive? Treat yourself like the amazing person you are. Period.
Maybe I am a dreamer, but this really shouldn’t be a hard concept to grasp.
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